The Significance of Smiling
I would consider myself an animated person. Daily, I find myself smiling, joking, and keeping a positive attitude. But sometimes, when I am alone, I can feel my otherwise warm countenance fade to a more serious expression. While it is normal for me to have a moment of introspection, there are other times when the fear of an uncomfortable situation stops me from open and friendly. I have come to realize, the frown on my face is a protective mechanism to avoid discomfort.
Having an uninviting expression on your face sends the signals to those around you that you do not wish to be engaged. I was reminded of this earlier in the week when I was in Las Vegas for a work conference. As the only person on my team in attendance, the majority of activities that I took part in on the trip, were solo endeavors.
While I do not mind being alone, I would much rather be in the company of others. Not having another person to help ease my discomfort or lack of familiarity in a new place caused me to have my guard up. In fact, one of the bussers at the restaurant picked up on this, asking me if I was upset as I waited for my food. I thought I had a neutral expression, when, in fact, my demeanor was cold. The rest of the evening went by very slowly and my mood was pretty low. While one interaction like this may be inconsequential, over time, it has potential to create a barrier between you and others. It is important to note that by attempting to eliminate the threat of an unpleasant interaction, you are also shutting yourself off from positive ones!
The very next day, I decided to wear a smile as I walked around town. After a couple of minutes I discovered two things: one, that my face hurt, and two, that I quickly began to feel more energized. To my surprise, I even felt more comfortable asking for directions. From that point on, my interactions were more meaningful and conversation with strangers was less intimidating.
It is essential for your mannerisms to reflect your goals and intentions. If you are a vibrant and happy person (or hope to be), your countenance should reflect this. This unity between the mind and body allows for fuller, more genuine interactions. If you find that you are often frowning or on edge, it is possible that this is unconscious and may reveal a deeper issue. Perhaps you do not feel that your environment is in alignment with your values. Use this realization as a propellant to discover what small steps you can take to make your surroundings parallel with your aspirations.
Interestingly, smiling is contagious as it triggers the mirror neuron system, causing others to be likely to smile back. It can also be a destresser as it lowers cortisol levels and can trigger the release of endorphins, or “feel good hormones.” People who frequently smile live longer, have stronger immune function, and better relationships than those who do not. A bit like the contagiousness of laughter, a smile has the power to warm the hearts of all those who have the pleasure of witnessing it.
A beautiful reminder that perfectly addresses this premise is posted at this lovely restaurant in downtown Franklin:
“Better to be the one that smiled than the one that didn’t smile back.” You truly have nothing to lose by smiling!
Take a moment to check in with yourself:
What expression does your face make while resting?
Why might you be holding back a smile?
What makes you smile and how can you incorporate more of this in your life?
With countless reasons to embrace a smile, I hope you feel encouraged to share yours with the world. Let your friends, family, and colleagues know you as a person who radiates joy. Let go of the fear of rejection and be confident in your outward expression of contentment.